Yes. I was never one to jump on a "Men Are Crap" bandwagon, but I have come by experience to realize that too many of them love to hear themselves talk. And they like to talk "at" you instead of "with" you.
They seem not to consider that you might even know more about a subject than they do. And I never want to hear that men are more logical than women ever again. I've known a lot of illogical men who are almost entirely driven by emotion.
The man I referred to, loves to call me and hold forth on politics or whatever subject strikes his fancy. It's a lecture; not a conversation. I marvel how how the words can tumble so rapidly from his mouth without him taking a breath. I put the phone on the table and can nod off for two hours straight before he notices I'm not talking. He loves the sound of his own voice.
Oh, my. Yes, I've had that experience, too. More than once. lol Well, you know, men are trained to be a certain way, and so are women. Socialized. Brainwashed. It's not entirely their fault, but when you're the top dog, it takes some serious cojones to step off the merry-go-round. And men make it very difficult for other men to step off... talk about peer pressure-- and believing the mythology! Same for women, tho, so many are just utterly trained... It's the few and far between of both sides, the rebels, who manage to escape and hopefully find each other. Truth is, I'm just as bored listening to female nonsense and blather as I am listening to the male side. But women don't generally treat me as if they own me, either, or are entitled to better wages, or what my "duty" is, or how to raise my children, etc etc etc And generally speaking, they don't often treat me as if I am in need of their sexual beneficence, and sex being part of almost EVERY conversation...
Have you ever read a book called "Men Explain Things To Me" ? Author is Rebecca Solnit. I think that's where the term "mansplaining" came from. She tells about how she went to a party with a friend, another gal, and they went to say hello to the host, whom they didn't know. The host spent some time telling Rebecca all about this book, which SHE wrote, and raving about it, and cutting her off when she kept trying to tell him SHE WROTE IT, and finally her friend cut in and said "SHE'S THE AUTHOR!!!" lol That's funny, but the book has some pretty dark stuff in it, too.
Anyway. Cheers, m'dear... And wondering if maybe some lectures back to your male phone friend... Maybe all about makeup, or the benefits of using a certain kind of dish soap, or maybe just fall asleep and drop the phone, somehow turning it off... ;)
Yes. I was never one to jump on a "Men Are Crap" bandwagon, but I have come by experience to realize that too many of them love to hear themselves talk. And they like to talk "at" you instead of "with" you.
They seem not to consider that you might even know more about a subject than they do. And I never want to hear that men are more logical than women ever again. I've known a lot of illogical men who are almost entirely driven by emotion.
The man I referred to, loves to call me and hold forth on politics or whatever subject strikes his fancy. It's a lecture; not a conversation. I marvel how how the words can tumble so rapidly from his mouth without him taking a breath. I put the phone on the table and can nod off for two hours straight before he notices I'm not talking. He loves the sound of his own voice.
I am not so much a person as I am a giant ear.
Oh, my. Yes, I've had that experience, too. More than once. lol Well, you know, men are trained to be a certain way, and so are women. Socialized. Brainwashed. It's not entirely their fault, but when you're the top dog, it takes some serious cojones to step off the merry-go-round. And men make it very difficult for other men to step off... talk about peer pressure-- and believing the mythology! Same for women, tho, so many are just utterly trained... It's the few and far between of both sides, the rebels, who manage to escape and hopefully find each other. Truth is, I'm just as bored listening to female nonsense and blather as I am listening to the male side. But women don't generally treat me as if they own me, either, or are entitled to better wages, or what my "duty" is, or how to raise my children, etc etc etc And generally speaking, they don't often treat me as if I am in need of their sexual beneficence, and sex being part of almost EVERY conversation...
Have you ever read a book called "Men Explain Things To Me" ? Author is Rebecca Solnit. I think that's where the term "mansplaining" came from. She tells about how she went to a party with a friend, another gal, and they went to say hello to the host, whom they didn't know. The host spent some time telling Rebecca all about this book, which SHE wrote, and raving about it, and cutting her off when she kept trying to tell him SHE WROTE IT, and finally her friend cut in and said "SHE'S THE AUTHOR!!!" lol That's funny, but the book has some pretty dark stuff in it, too.
Anyway. Cheers, m'dear... And wondering if maybe some lectures back to your male phone friend... Maybe all about makeup, or the benefits of using a certain kind of dish soap, or maybe just fall asleep and drop the phone, somehow turning it off... ;)
Yesssss, I did read that story about her trying to tell the guy she wrote the book he was praising!!!
Once in a while, when I can't take anymore, I will stop my caller cold and tell him facts he never thought about while forming his opinion.
Fun times.